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Blair & Chuck: “An abuser’s paradise”

Well, who doesn’t love a good gossip? Rumour has it, that the author of this blog thinks that the relationship between Blair and Chuck is driven by toxic masculinity and extreme attachment issues. While talking about the scandalous lives of Manhattan’s elite, Gossip Girl, also tends to portray negative ideas on romanticising love.

Dear readers, looks like the ghosts of Chuck’s past have come back to haunt him. Charles Bass, also known as Chuck, a persistent sex offender and dangerous misogynist, is placed on a pedestal because of his conventional handsomeness. While being introduced in the plot episode, he is shown to attempt rape on his future wife’s best friend by using blackmail, and on the same day, he coerces a 14 year-old girl to drink more alcohol despite her being visibly uncomfortable and afterwards tries to kiss her; he is glorified for being a “bad boy”. In particular, his whole identity is based around his wealth and the power it gives him. His catchphrase, “I’m Chuck Bass” perfectly illustrates that he can do anything he wants because his money can open any door.

In an effort to spread rumours, we look over someone even more scandalous—Blair Waldorf. Living on the Upper East Side in Manhattan, she spent most of her life as part of New York’s high society, and considers herself the Queen Bee.  She’s domineering, manipulative, yet loyal. After failing to build a future with Nate Archibald, Blair starts a romantic relationship with Chuck Bass but later embarks on a failed marriage with Prince Louis Grimaldi throughout the series. She has remained the highlight of the gossips with her “Bad Blair Ways”.

All masks have to eventually come off, and so will of their relationship’s. They say, “the person you lose your virginity to always remains special”, and I guess that’s why Blair can’t stay away from Chuck. His need to control Blair is truly harmful and toxic. He stalked her from the comfort of his stretch limo by hiring a private investigator, refused to tell her that he loves her and let her go, and trades her for sex to his uncle in exchange for his hotel. The point of no return for the couple (or at least what should’ve been) was when Chuck nearly punched Blair. This isn’t just awful in and of itself, but because of how the creators of the show frame the incident. Blair told Chuck that she is engaged to Prince Louis, and at that moment, he grabbed her and forced her against a glass wall, which he then proceeded to punch, causing the glass to fall and cut her face. Whether or not he was trying to hit her or the wall doesn’t change the severity of the incident. Threats of violence through acts of intimidation are abuse and also extremely harmful to victims’ emotional welfare.

No less than two episodes later do Blair and Chuck sleep together, with Blair then trying to convince him that they belong together. Chuck’s abuse of Blair is only mentioned once again when he much later apologised to her. His apology was meaningless as it isn’t followed up by a change in behaviour, as is often the case with abusive partners. His need for proving to be a man led him to over-obsess with expanding his father’s empire, and in this process, he forgot about Blair and gave her less priority over his hotel. This was a portrayal of toxic masculinity that was then romanticised when he goes rogues and tells Blair that he can’t survive without her.

Trouble in paradise or true love? Serial harassers turning into soft core boys? Guess the love wore on. Sure, there are times I’ve rooted for them. There are moments between the pair that make me swoon. But I can’t shake the toxicity of the relationship. The directors made sure of romanticising abusers onscreen that had an impact on the audience. I was also in awe of their relationship until recently when I rewatched the show, while realising that the thing that I imagined to have one day, the love that I needed,  was actually some fiction created with the worst form.

Who wouldn’t want a cute relationship that everyone desired? But on the inside, this was the most damaged one, and Blair constantly trying to fix it, going extents to stop it from breaking is something I wouldn’t want to do in life. This wasn’t love, this was attachment issues that Blair had with Chuck, and not letting him go showed that womanisers/harassers can get away with anything and still get what they want. The constant aggression, games, abuse is something that is glorified in this show, and this all promotes toxic masculinity with the love sphere among their viewers.

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I personally think all characters, male and female, in Gossip Girl were highly problematic and antagonistic. But the general themes of the show were more demeaning for women, e.g., slut shaming. Blair does it to Serena by saying something around the lines of, "I'm not the one who has been sleeping around since I was fifteen", and Chuck does it to Blair (after she loses her virginity to him) by saying something like, "you used to be special. Now you are just like other girls. Rode hard and put away wet".

Secondly, there is a pattern of female characters plotting and scheming against each other. Jenny, Blair, Georgina Sparks are especially portrayed as evil and vengeful masterminds. The show is…

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Iman Ahmad
Iman Ahmad
2022年12月08日

Firstly, I love how you wrote this blog post (it was so interesting to read!)


Secondly, Chuck and Blair's relationship has been so romanticized especially because it fits so many tropes that are widely consumed in YA/Fanfiction novels like "enemies to lovers", "he hates everybody in the world but me" etc which a lot of young people, including myself eat up. Not to mention, Chuck and Blair's relationship is not the only problematic one as in some later seasons Nate dates Sage who is underage, and Dan exposes Serena's secrets as he is gossip girl and there are also teacher-student relationships. However, once you delve into not only Chuck's problematic behavior as you have pointed out in your post but…



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Amna Shaikh 26090043
Amna Shaikh 26090043
2022年12月05日

Spoiler Alert - because I haven’t finished the show just found out too :*) . . . . . . . The fact that Dan was gossip girl all along and posting about his own sisters love interests is quite problematic when you think about it as well. Although it can be argued that understanding privacy over the internet was evolving during that time he was clearly overstepping a lot of boundaries and leaking information about people’s lives like when he thinks she has an STD and even claiming that they were half-siblings when he kind of liked her. Dan is also sexist throughout most of the show, he slut shames Serena, his sister and maligns almost every female character on the show through gossip girl…

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I still remember how extremely disgusted I was by Chuck Bass in the beginning of the show when he attempted to rape Serena and then later a minor Jenney . Now I ponder, during the entire show , he never even apologised for that. In the very beginning of the show , he was established as a harasser. It was very obvious that chuck has no regard for consent and what’s even worse that this was romanticized in his relationship with Blair. His toxic masculinity and abusive behaviour cannot be justified by his good looks and accent.Furthermore , his predatory behaviour was perceived by the audience as sexy because once in a while the directors decided to show his …

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