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Glorification of stalker behaviour in Pakistani Dramas

When you open Instagram you come across posts of sexual harrasment , rape and murder of women , every other day. At that time we are  very insistent of protesting against these injustices. But has anyone given thought to what is promoting this behaviour? One main culprit,  is Our mainstream media : primarily television Dramas, which air absurd content glorified as romance. Some examples are dramas like khuda Aur mohabbat , kaise Teri khudgarzi and khaani.





In these dramas its a one sided love story where a man is attracted to a girl , starts stalking her and then from stalking it leads to kidnapping , forced love and badduas all in the name of love. And instead of viewers thinking this as creepy this is portrayed in a way to give a romantic vibe to all with romantic songs being played in the background and bright special effects . When one sees such dramas the main viewers who tend to be middle class individuals mostly with substandard education, get attracted to the whole scenario and start possessing stalkerish tendencies and give this behavior the name of liking someone . These tendencies are what then leads to someone becoming a noor mukaddam, a Sonia and a hajra all becuase a man cant handle rejection.


If the media is playing such dramas without thinking about consequences and is more focused on banning kissing scenes rather than stories with such nonsensical content then how can one expect better of the nation . It is the responsibility of the media channels to air responsible content which gives meaningful messages rather than just airing content for the sake of viewership and Romanticizing sexual harrasment.When thinking on a deeper level one wonders why Pakistani viewers love such dramas , and one reason which I could think of was beauty. When seen on screen both the male and female are shown as beautiful individuals and look stunning no matter if they are rich or poor. But has one ever thought that in real life These kind of people are neither beautiful nor attractive.  When u potray feroze khan as a stalker , his good looks can’t help make the audience ooh and aah, but just imagine if this was a random person with no attractive face would you have the same reaction ?


I can assure you it won’t be, and this is when one needs to put thought into the kind of content which shapes one’s mind and thought process. When your media is glorifying stalkerish behavior and sexual harassment, they are using several things alongside to potray a beautiful picture however,  if the media portrayed  the same story with a less attractive herione and hero , no romantic songs and no bright special effects , the reaction of the audience would be much different.

Let’s divulge a bit more into the context. As per media channels the main female lead ends up falling in love with the stalker individual , but does that really happen. Ofcourse not ? Would you fall in love with your brothers murderer , or with the person who harassed you. No infact you would be traumatized for life not even wanting to see the individuals face and this can be proven by thousands of instagram posts calling out their sexual harrassers. But our television potrays a completely different story , so when the normal people see this they end up believing that we can attain someone we Like using any method we want and we would be forgiven as well , and when this doesn’t happen , that is what leads to the girls being raped , murdered and kidnapped .

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Thankyou Iman, For sharing this.

Drame is good. Acting of both actors is amazing.. They beautifully showed the pain.. But I think the actors character (farhad) was bit problematic and disturbing .Being madly in love makes him forget that he is also a son to someone, brother to someone, friend to someone and so on. Destroying ones life just because of one person is not a healthy thing to show.

Again great work!

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Farhad’s behaviour in this drama reminds us of how hollywood heroes approached women in their films in the ’80s and ’90s with hopes of turning her denial into acceptance.

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Hi Iman!

Thank you for writing this blog! I have seen Khuda Aur Mohabbat, and I find it problematic in many ways. It's the fact that the drama actually takes it one step further. When Iqra Aziz's character says no to Feroze Khan's behaviour, he not only resorts to stalking her but also gives her a 'baddua'. And then the drama creators actually go even further and allow the script to let the 'baddua' come true as Iqra Aziz's character is stricken with grief and misfortune. Whats worse is that such behaviour is cloaked under the guise of 'undying love' or 'bepanah mohabbat' by Feroze Khan's character. He would do literally anything to get the girl, without even taking into…


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Iman Aamir
Iman Aamir
07 ago 2022
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Hi you have raised a great question here and I think no audience would recieve it well …. The men would consider the wonen besharam and the women would protest that they aren’t desperate and it’s creating a wrong image of women out their . Moreover in my opinionan their would be public outrage and the drama would not get high rating

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I think this blog perfectly sums up Pakistani society and its dramas. Firstly the dramas always glorify such characters and make them appear as expected. I believe these drams portray every male positively, but that should be condemned. Whatever they do is taken as an expression of their love or dedication, whereas that is not the case. We can see that In a lot of Pakistani dramas are biased. If a man does something, that can be forgiven, and if a woman does something, that can never be ignored, leading to her character assassination.

For example, the drama "mere pass tum ho" showed how when women did the same thing a man did, they were taken so differently by th…

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Iman Aamir
Iman Aamir
06 ago 2022
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Yes exactly my point , why is every thing a man does ends up being justified but when a women does the same they are criticizEd …. If our drama industry slowly starts changing their scripts more people can be educated as well

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Very strong argument Imaan, I agree for the most part!


I'd like to add though that showing these types of behaviors and personalities is not problematic if the they are dealt with appropriately by the end. These stories are often inspired by real life incidents and there's no lie that these things are prevalent throughout our society, whether elite or not, educated enough or not. Hence, it is important to air these stories but since media holds such strong influence it is important that the character receives the necessary punishment for their actions and not reward whether it be in the form of the girl falling in love with him or getting away scot-free. This will prevent people from being…


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Iman Aamir
Iman Aamir
06 ago 2022
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yes I agree Mariam that talking about These issues is really important and I am glad that Pakistani dramas do but then their meaning is lost when they talk about such an important issue and end up romanticizing …it would be so much better if they could show a negative end rather than a positive one at the end which could help recitify the situation

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