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Good wife = Forgiving wife?

One of the most underrated educational tools is the media industry. It has an inexplicable consciously and unconsciously influencing effect on people's thinking. As a result, it's crucial to pay attention to what kind of material in drama industries are being produced and what vital lessons they're attempting to instil in society. Their intended audience is mostly housewives, who will form the traits and personalities of future generations. They will pass on their beliefs and ideals to future generations. One thing that I have found particularly troubling and have seen repeatedly in Pakistani shows is how they demonstrate that a good wife is one who forgives in the end. Many dramas attempt to instil in people's brains the idea that a decent loving woman always forgives cheater abusive spouses in order to safeguard our prime ministers' favourite word, "family system." There are numerous dramas that depict this mindset. Let's begin with "Ghar titli ka par", in which Aiman Khan forgives her cheating spouse Shahzad Sheikh in order to save her home. Sara Khan forgives Agha Ali's character in Mere Bewafa, who was a husband who abused and tortured her mentally and physically. Mahira's character forgiven Fawad Khan, who had not trusted her and had thrown her out of his home, in Humsafar. Anya forgives Areesh even though he eloped with his lover while Anya was pregnant with his child in Anaa. In Ishq Tamasha, Aiman Khan forgives Junaid Khan's character for kidnapping her, ruining her life, and murdering her cousin. Finally, in one of our industry's most well-known dramas, Shehrezaat, Mahira Khan's character Falak forgives Salman when he returns to her after cheating on her and leaving her. There are numerous other examples of this type attempting to depict the same flawed premise. It tries to show that no matter how horribly a man treats you, as a woman or "decent" wife, you need him at the end of the day and should forgive him. Even more upsetting is the fact that women in the audience are suggesting for those characters that she should forgive him because he feels sorry, he has changed. That she should give her husband a second chance as this is not how relationships or marriages function. He is a human who has made a mistake and now his wife should let it go.


But it begs the question: how many dramas have shown men forgiving women who have cheated on them if we reverse the roles? How much is that acceptable in society as well? Mere Pass Tum Ho is an example of a character who received a lot of hate and outrage simply because she was a woman who cheated. It's not to suggest that cheating is acceptable; it's unquestionably immoral regardless of gender; the question is why one gender receives greater backlash than the other!




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I absolutely agree with the author on this specific issue. However, to critically analyze this topic, we need to take in multiple variables. First and foremost, our drama industry shows these kinds of dramas as they are popular due to their user engagement, and sadly these plays perfectly depict our region's ongoing scenario. Yes, I support the idea that we should move towards different types of plays that put across a more neutral approach, but sadly everyone in our media industry wants their TRP's to go up. Furthermore, our culture has become so crude that now the reality is no different from what is shown in the plays. Our women still feel vulnerable, and they believe that being in a…

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There is no way to refute the counter-argument you have offered since it is true.

However, I'd take a somewhat different strategy in this case.

I believe it is perfectly acceptable to show women being cheated on by their husbands in a show because this is the real face of our society, but showing women forgiving their disloyal husbands is a norm and standard you are setting by convincing them that because their situation is relatable to the incident, the reaction they are presenting is preferable. Media ownership is a powerful weapon that impacts society in a variety of ways. When these plays portray virtuous women as forgiving, it instills in the audience the belief that it is the correct…

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There are many problems with Pakistani dramas and their portrayal of gender roles and one of them is what you have discussed here. However, while critiquing these dramas, I often wonder whether these dramas are a reflection of the already present mentality of Pakistanis or do these dramas influence the Pakistani mentality. I think the answer to this is complex but can be simplified to the fact that it works both ways. Thus, in order to change the mentality of Pakistanis, we need to change our dramas and that will in turn create more dramas like these. So yes, for once they should show a forgiving husband who is not portrayed to be the most amazing man on earth simply…

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