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Is The Weeknd biggest red flag?

No media product unharmful and even if one considers himself immune to it , it just can’t be possible because media products surround us all the time. Even if one doesn’t really watch movies or tv shows but SONGS? Doing the song analysis in edu 274 made me realise that even though we understand the lyrics , we don’t pay attention the ideas they are embedding in our heads. How is it not possible to listen a song 20 times and never adopt one thing from it?





What I specifically want to talk about is how toxic behaviour is now glamorized. We can all relate to “I just wanna see how red the red flag can get.” Or “red flag? Red is my favourite colour!”. How we have romanticized the toxic behaviour. To all those who watched the vampire diaries , we know we would rather have a Damon in our life than Stefan. But what about songs? Why are singers like Abel Tesfaye (The weeknd) glamorizing the red flags? His songs are full of toxic masculinity , emotional apathy , drugs , abandonment issues etc. Not only he promotes toxic masculinity but also considers it a strength. I still can figure out that in what world is being emotionally unavailable normal and "manly". What ideas do such songs leave the audience with? He takes pride in being such a fv8kboy as he praises himself for his partners suicidal thoughts in his song "hurt you"



Cause all the nights you slept alone, dryin' your eyes And all the nights you thought about takin' your life Cause if it's love you want again, don't waste your time But if you call me up, I'm fuckin' you on sight

So, I made you think that I would always stay I said some things that I should never say Yeah, I broke your heart like someone did to mine And now you won't love me for a second time -save your tears


I left my girl back home I don't love her no more And she'll never fucking know that. -Wicked games


I know it's all my fault Made you put down your guard I know I made you fall Then said you were wrong for me - After hours




Can we not a see similar themes in these different songs? The idea of cheating/ betraying / lying to your female partner is constantly reinforced in different ways. Let’s be honest, these themes are very prevalent not just in weeknd’s songs but also many other popstars. It is often said that listening to The Weeknd is a red flag and now men/women have started taking pride in cheating, betraying and leading somebody on just because it has become the norm now. When listening to songs, audience often finds something to relate with and clings to it. We can see this behaviour on TikTok and see on what level people take pride in relating to Weeknd's songs







When someone listens to songs like save your tears or wicked games where such toxic themes are reiterated, they eventually become the norm. I am not implying that one blindly follows the lyrics but listening to similar songs for years can change one’s perceptions and beliefs. What’s your take on such songs? Are they promoting toxicity?








(I am the biggest weeknd fan ,but somebody had to say it, here's proof)



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This is the standard "video games make kids violent" debate. Studies show that videos involving theft and mass murder have very small effects on children, imagine how little of an effect music would make on adults. And if there ARE people more impressionable than pre-pubescent children and have a poor excuse of a moral compass, you would expect them to be pretty bad individuals with or without listening to the Weeknd’s music. Furthermore, the majority of people listening to music, in general, like the beat of the song or its catchy phrases. They probably won't be able to tell you the lyrics to their favorite songs because they don't have any interest in the lyrics at all. In a study…

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In my opinion , nobody is immune to media content. It can possibly be true that some people listen to music for the beat but on the other hand many listen to music because they relate songs and such songs might even be their favourite ones. Is it possible to listen to a song just for the sake of beat and not even listen to a single lyric ? A study published in the Journal of Adolescent Health found that listening to music with degrading sexual lyrics was associated with an increased likelihood of engaging in risky sexual behaviors among adolescent girls. Now that kids listen to music from young ages , we can not say with certainty that musi…

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There are two perspectives on if the Weeknd is a red flag or not. Some people may get triggered by the toxicity and unrealistic beauty standards the lyrics promote, while for others its an escape because it is a reflection to their feelings and state of mind. Latter is problematic also in a way that it shows the toxicity people are potentially carrying in their minds. In my opinion his songs may have an adverse psychological impact on both men and women in a way that it indirectly promotes them in being disloyal and toxic towards their partners and people around them. So either of the two perspectives presented above is dangerous for people themselves and the people they are…

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I agree with you but you said that the later is problematic but how are we so sure that some people are immune to these toxic lyrics?

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I agree with you to an extent but I also disagree with you in some areas. I think artists write songs in a way that expresses their feelings. For example, Olivia Rodrigo wrote her recent album after being betrayed by her ex. Just like that, in this case, The Weeknd expresses his thoughts and puts them in songs. Of course, the ideas that he is promoting are problematic but the reason that they are so popular is because people relate to them. I’m sure you also have multiple songs that you can relate to as well that sort of seem similar to your situation in life. Other than the fact that his songs promote toxicity, I think they are also…

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You are right that most singers express their feelings in the songs . But when it comes to Weeknd , toxic lyrics are a trend or a theme. Repeating the same ideas of cheating , abusing , drugs over and over is when these ideas become most problematic.

Furthermore, just because certain individuals can relate with the ideas that The Weeknd promotes in his music does not imply that they are good ones. Something is not necessarily good or beneficial just because it is relatable. Instead, we should scrutinise the messages that musicians convey through their music and work to spread healthy, uplifting ideas especially when it comes to relationships

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I completely agree with you!! Being a pop and hip-hop music fan I’ve often find it so problematic how these artists encourage this toxic behaviour. Even if they don’t mean to do harm the music that they are putting out there is bound to influence other people especially when they’re as famous as artists like The Weeknd or Drake. They not only sing about these toxic traits and romanticise them but they also continue to objectify and sexualise women. This reminds me of a song by The Weeknd called ‘Party Monster’ and its lyrics literally say: Angelina, lips like Angelina Like Selena, ass shaped like Selena The song obviously refers to Angelina Jolie and Selena Gomez (who Abel even dated) and…

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You are so right that the Weeknd music might be a bad influence. I still remember when my ex was being a bi*tch and then he later played heartless by Weeknd 😭??? Finding an escape in music is one thing but using such songs to justify your behaviour is wrong on a whole new level. Secondly , objectification has been a major theme in pop music and it appears that most songs (drake and Weeknd ) are written from a male gaze perspective where women are just objects to please men.

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