The Pakistani Rishta Culture is extremely toxic for women, and men often have a role to play in making it toxic.
But, here's a sketch from Danish Ali that takes a look at the Rishta Culture on a lighter note:-
Basically, the video shows how men's value for a rishta is determined by their profession and how much they earn, and their personality and own self comes last.
There are a few things that I found interesting in the video. While the video seemingly shows men's perspective, whenever they talk about value like "Doctor 40 Lakh ka", I think the amount might be hinting towards the concept of Jahez and how larki waley are expected to spend millions for their hOnoUrabLe damaad.
Danish also says, "Artist ko tou free mein le lein", which hurts being a videographer and product photographer, but soooo truee bestieee.
The video also touches on how Pakistanis spend "poori life savings aur 30 saal ka qarz" for "shaadi ka dikhawa." It highlights how toxic this culture of excessive spending on extravagant weddings is, and also puts unnecessary financial stress on the newly weds. Lastly, the video also hints towards parents forcing their daughters to marry at the end when they showed the rich DHA guy with murder charges.
I found the video pretty funny as it touches on so many common themes like cousin marriages, and I also showed this video to my mom. But, we can't deny that a lot of what happens in our rishta "culture" is very problematic and needs to be addressed on a societal level.
What do you think about the video? Is there something that could have been done better? Is there something you would have added or removed had you been given a chance to make the video? Is there something wrong with the video? Please do let me know your thoughts in the comments.
Thank you for reading! May Allah bless you with 15 comments on your blog if you comment on mine :)
Hello! Thanks for the share! This was pretty reminiscent of those rishta advertisement sections we find in newspapers wherein we're presented with hyperbolic and highly demanding propositions of interested rishta parties:
" Height...Skin color ....degree etc"
It is almost like an auction featuring women and men trying to beat one another. Why are these advertisements not banned? Why is this still a thing in 21st century?
Hey, this was a great read and a great watch!
I've only recently become a fan of Danish Ali after he appeared in a Hum Tv Drama called Hum Tum. He played the role of a comic best friend for Ahad Raza Mir's character and displayed great acting ability. Watching this video cemented that image of him for me.
Intellectual content delivered through comedy is one of the fastest forms of education if you ask me. You laugh, but you also learn so much within the span of a few minutes. For that, I am grateful to YouTubers like him and Arsalan Naseer for being so refreshingly honest yet fueling intellectual conversations so effortlessly.
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Hello Sabeeh, this was a very interesting blog post. You've highlighted a very important issue which exists in our society. Men have been given huge responsibilities on their shoulders and in most if not all instances, the girl's family puts extreme pressure on a guy while asking for marriage. It's completely understandable how a family does not want to send their daughter to an unstable household but they also need to understand that times have changed now. It is not always possible for a man to have a stable career right after graduation unless he's living on generational wealth. In this day and age, it is also an often occurrence that the girl and guy both work after marriage, manage…
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The video was so insightful, and honestly an eye opener for me. Representations of marriage issues from a male lens were not very common in Pakistani media, and this video fills that gap. It pointed out the toxicity of the rishta culture from a male lens all the while keeping the audience hooked because it was very funny, Thank you for introducing me to this video!
Interesting