The 3rd of December was just last week, which meant Conan Gray’s song ‘Heather’ was trending on Twitter and on TikTok. The 23-year-old released this song in 2020 and it has become a sensational favorite amongst fans since then because of it’s first lyric that says:
“I still remember the third of December, me in your sweater
You said it looked better on me than it did on you.”
The lyric was romanticized by many teens across all social media platforms and soon boyfriends/girlfriends began to give their sweaters to their partners. This became a trend and now people on social media reignite this trend every year and give their sweaters to their partners. Single people also joke about not having anyone’s sweater to wear. The point of the blog is that we do not even realize how mainstream media including songs such as Heather influence our daily lives and relationships. I have observed many of my friends and peers follow this trend and post about it just to create a happy, healthy image of their relationships.
This also takes me back to October, when Girl in Red’s song ‘we fell in love in October’ put pressure on teens to find a partner in October. So many people start to take these lyrics seriously and feel pressurized to find relationships that fit the narrative. However, these relationships might often be unhealthy or immature but just because they fulfill a trend they come off as fulfilling and healthy. This is quite problematic as people choose to stay in relationships based on how they look to other people instead of how they make them feel. These songs and lyrics are melodious and peaceful to listen to but create unrealistic expectations for people who are single or even in relationships. They put pressure on single people to find partners by a certain deadline and that is extremely unhealthy because people settle for toxic, abusive relationships this way.