If life is seen as a trajectory of failures and learning experiences, this leverage should be extended beyond the quotes we see online. Cancel culture is prevalent in recent times, where people barely observe the tip of the iceberg and form an opinion about another being or a group of people. This results in their immediate reaction, which is usually negative and results in canceling the group or the individual. Cancel culture is not seen as unfavorable but rather as a support system-like notion where one human relies on the judgment of others.
Let’s suppose marriage is the center of the discussion. Females write a 5-line paragraph on platforms like ‘Girl Power’ explaining a situation and other girls’ comment “Run.” Problems often have much more complexity than a 5-line explanation; therefore, advice and potential options could be a safer reply than determining whether the girl should end the relationship. On a Facebook group, one female posts about their husband, stating that he did not talk to her for a day when they argued. In the comments section, other females would reach conclusions like “Girl, he is ghosting you, leave him,” “he is a red flag,” and “A person who truly loves you would never go one day without talking to you.” This is the cancellation process. The female who has trusted this set of females would not see her relationship with her husband as toxic and unworthy of her attention and care.
Marriages last for years and have much more than a binary of white and black, good and bad. A third person boxing your wedding in a binary result in the breaking of marriages. While it is appreciable for both the male and the female community to have friends and advisors to rely on, it is harmful to trust the advice given on a whim. Not talking to one’s partner for a day may result from an avoidant attachment style. This may also result from how they were raised and how conflict was dealt with while they were growing up. As adults, we frequently need space to cool down after arguments and disagreements, and play should, therefore, be validated.
Social media and the reels posted on Instagram and TikTok create an unrealistic image of love and what it looks like. “One should never sleep angry with their partner” – perhaps sometimes one should sleep angry and talk through the situation once they have woken up. Canceling another human being would mean invalidating them as a person and expecting perfection from them. This includes instilling those expectations in the person seeking advice from you. The younger generations, especially, have started to swipe people right and left in terms of substantial life events such as marriage, breakups, and friendships. Cancel culture is perpetuating chaos rather than promoting self-growth and peace.
